“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” -Dr. Henry Cloud, Christian self-help author
Why is it so challenging to change your diet? It seems simple enough. Change your food choices. Healthy diet plans are everywhere. Research laden diet plans make sense. Most of us need to make changes in our diet, so why are we so resistant to changing our food habits?
Change is more difficult than most people recognize. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) explains the stages of change as an upward spiral in which we learn from each stage as we relapse or fall back into old habits. We must identify where each person falls on the Continue reading
We have all seen kid-friendly menus at restaurants and events where convenience food is considered a necessary evil for living a modern fast-paced lifestyle. We often do not consider the long term consequences of feeding our kids toxic foods or even know what the actual consequences might be. If you have been raised on fast food and pre-packaged grocery store items, then you most likely have continued to eat this way as an adult. Therefore, you teach your kids the same diet plan.
“I can’t get my child to eat healthy food.” Continue reading
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.” – Ghandi
This quote has resonated with me for decades. I found myself talking about change today – as a I often do. I quoted Ghandi and normalized why change is so difficult for people, governments, religions, and powerful entities. It’s not only hard to create change within a system, it is equally difficult for the system to embrace substantial change. Although I talk about the semantics, psychology, and resisters of change, I don’t always validate the power it takes for change to come from within. Continue reading
When Food Excludes: As we plan for gatherings to celebrate holidays and our love for one another, great food is a prerequisite. Can you imagine your holiday gatherings without your favorite entrée or dessert? What happens when your favorite meal excludes a loved one with a food intolerance, food allergy, health-related food need, or a different lifestyle or faith? Continue reading
“My child won’t behave.” That’s what I used to think about my child’s behavioral issues. He just won’t mind me. Professionals boldly told me that I needed better parenting skills with my son. “Keep a routine and never tell him ‘no'” were clinical suggestions which made things worse, not better. I had to discipline my child despite his needs in order to keep him from being totally defiant. Continue reading
If you are looking for answers to your child’s health and behavioral needs, allow me to introduce you to an innovative approach which puts your child at the center of his/her care. The goal of treatment is to discover underlying causes of illness and behavioral challenges to provide healing versus medicating symptoms. Continue reading
In a time when conflict abounds, surrounds, & confounds us, we must remain resolute. We have the power to choose chaos or peace. Freud described conflicting internal forces-which were later labeled as “Eros versus Thanatos” or “life versus death”- as innate life instincts. Eros leads us to procreate, survive, and focus on continuing life whereas Thanatos is self-destructive and potentially life-threatening. The biblical explanation of these internal conflicts takes us to the very beginning of sin with Adam & Eve – a.k.a.”sin nature.” Ask yourself a simple question, Continue reading
As a counselor, I often hear wonderful parents describe their parenting “failures” when their children do not “behave.” Often times, the parent feels like a failure due to multiple factors. The looks of disgust from other parents, friends, and loved ones along with their own embarrassment, and confusion about why their lovely child is out-of-control are a few factors which led to this feeling. I feel the same way almost daily. Continue reading
Are you ready to change your thoughts about food? I find myself struggling with the knowledge I have sought about food versus the knowledge I learned from teachers, the FDA, the Food Guide Pyramid, and the media. I learned to blindly trust “experts” and textbooks. I was a food & nutrition teacher and I perpetrated lies about food as truth. It must be a “Southern thing.” Radicals, they are all radicals! It’s amazing how we use defense mechanisms (psycho-analytics) to avoid and deny alternative explanations and rational thoughts. Continue reading
Why are we desensitized to images of GMO foods, chemical additives, and unhealthy food choices which make us chronically ill? As I searched images for this blog post, I typed-in key words “toxic food, GMO, and unhealthy food.” To my dismay, I found countless images of enticing and mouth watering foods – which are part of my diet. Images of crops being sprayed with chemicals did not alarm me. Images of wheat stalks – which no longer look like “amber waves of grain” or the wheat of biblical times Continue reading